“Do Men Really Mean What They Say?”

Sorry Guys, but this blog is all about you and my perception! Bearing in mind that most of my readers are women!

This has happened to me three times now! Three times is NOT a charm …more a life lesson!

Lesson 1 – I meet a man on RSVP, he was very full on in the first few weeks, I felt a bit nervous but decided to go with the flow, before I knew it , he had his toothbrush at my house and was over nearly all the time! I changed my attitude and really enjoyed him being around, my kids loved him (they were 10 & 11 at the time), he took us all to the footy, brainwashed my son to follow his footy team, lol, but we all had a great time together. I remember he would just look at me with so much love. He would do this thing where he would look at me and say “Have I told you today?” and I would say “Nooo” and he would reply ” I love you like nothing else!”. It was cute and sweet and I really felt loved. Around the 3 month mark, I noticed he didn’t look at me the same way anymore, he didn’t say to me “Have I told you today?”, I asked him if he was ok, and if anything was wrong and he said no, all good. He started to not stay over and be at my house as much. After 2 weeks of this noticeably different behaviour, I sat him down and said “Ok, what is up? Have I done something?” His response was No, Its me. I just don’t think I want to be in a relationship! WTF! I was in shock. Was this all fake? Was he pretending? This was a man who thrust himself on me and virtually moved into my house without an invitation! I was very confused and upset and assumed he wanted to end things. But no, he still wanted to see me on his terms, sleep with me on his terms, but NOT be in a untitledrelationship! We even went on a holiday together and he told me he wanted to travel with me, wanted me to meet his family, that I was the woman for him, I met his children, yet I supposedly did nothing wrong! He told me he would come around and be ready for a relationship and wouldn’t want to be in one with anyone but me, but hey…he climbed the mountain, saw the view and climbed down, why would he go there again??? Lots of other mountains with different views!!!

We remained friends, one thing about me, anyone I have been connected with I remain friends with, don’t like bad blood with anyone! In-fact we went into business together, and that is a whole other story! lol

Lesson 2 – Around 8 years later I finally met a man I could connect with physically and emotionally – Great conversation, liked to do the same things, he was chivalrous, good family values and had an ex! Again I was a bit reserved with him, but he was texting me everyday, wanting to see me all the time, and we really had a great time together, laughed and spoke about work all the time. He wanted to see me for lunch during the week as often as I could do so, I really thought I had met “The One”, but this one infamous Sunday over a long weekend, we spent the day having drinks, hanging out, laughing, talking, then he said to me “I think YOU are more into this than me!” I had the wind pulled out of my sails…WTF? How could this be any different, was this a façade, thoughts of 8 years ago came flashing back. I laughed it off but was gut-wrenched, Everything that I thought was going to happen was obviously a figment of my cute romantic couples in love kissing hugging girls wallpapers (2)imagination! A lot more events happened that day, with us still hanging out and going out dancing and drinking all night and both of us coming home at 2am to have his EX pounding on the door, wanting him back! She had been spying on us! I felt so uncomfortable and needless to say, he retreated not knowing what he wanted, ending up getting back with her, breaking up, coming back to me, going back to her, this was so ridiculous, but he had like a spell over me, that I kept taking him back…was I longing for this future that I thought we could have together? Maybe, I hadn’t had a connection with anyone but him. 2 Years later, we got back together again. He had split with his ex for good, kept telling me of a future we would have together, holidays, N.Y.E. never apart again, I had my walls up, but slowly, slowly, he broke them down. By saying the most lovely things to me, wanting to take me out, calling me, texting me, telling me he wants me to come to his mates 50th in Vegas, to his daughters wedding in England, and eventually moving in together. Everything sound good? It did to me….however, we went out one afternoon to a show and he seemed distant, we then kicked on at the casino with his daughter and her fiancé and was having a great time. The following day he told me he cannot stop thinking of his ex and he is not ready for a relationship! OMFG……he didn’t want to get back with her, in fact we are still friends today and he hasn’t even spoke to his ex, they were poison together, but he told me he couldn’t see a future with me! I said to him, what about all the things you said to me? He informed me that he said those things as he wanted to picture a happy life in the future!!!! Oh My God….Can I trust anything that comes out of a males mouth??…we didn’t speak for nearly 6 months and I have recently reconnected with him as friends, yeah silly I know!

Lesson 3. Yes it’s painful, you can see it coming cant you? lol

Earlier this year, I met the most amazing man, remember I have been single for 14 years and other than my interstate guy, these 3 men have been the ones who have been most significant to me!

This man and I had the most amazing chemistry together, from the moment we met, we couldn’t be apart, the first day we met, we saw each other twice! For lunch and then for drinks before he had a family dinner, that he he didn’t want to go to, he wanted to stay with me! We would talk on the phone for hours, when we were together we would just stare at each other, it was crazy! I felt like a 16 y.o. school girl when I was with him. lol We had awesome conversation, he was so easy going, he led a busy life, worked 7 days and was a single father to 4 girls, so I could only see him once a week, and he felt guilty about that! However, I understood the demands on him,  and one day with him each week was worth it to me. I really had never had a connection with anyone else like him, he wasn’t drop dead gorgeous, but he was to me, I valued his opinion and he we constantly laughed and had the most amazing time together. We spoke about how you know when the right person comes along, and that this was so right, he supposedly told his girls about me, I never met them as they were a bit fragile, we spoke about being monogamous, he even asked me how I would introduce him to people and I said my Couples-In-Love-26partner and he beamed from ear to ear! He met my friends,  so I thought we were in a relationship, until about 3 months in, I heard those words again, ” I think YOU are more into this than me!” I honestly started spinning out of control, WTF, why would he say all these things if he didn’t mean them? Of course this changed things for me, I started building a wall to protect myself, and eventually we parted due to timing. We were both sad it had to end, but it did. He had no time to see me, and for me those words kept ringing in my ear. I have tried to reconnect with him, as this break up did hurt me a lot, but he has reneged each time, nicely. Maybe he wasn’t the man I thought he was.

Have these experiences left me cynical, scared and not trusting of men’s words? Absolutely!

I try to be me, early on so they know what they are getting into, do I scare them? Am I too full on? But I am a reactive person, so I react to how I am being treated!

In saying this, surprisingly to me, I have had a male tell me that women only tell him what he wants to hear! haha… sounds like karma to me! lol,,,I shouldn’t be like that, maybe it is a male and female trait!

I will still go forward, and look for the man I want to spend my future with, but I will be guarded, at least to the 3 month mark, as that seems to be when the lust, infatuation, love, hopes and dreams wears off for a man and reality sets in!

Happy Dating! 🙂

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“ARE OUR EXPECATIONS TOO HIGH IN THE DATING WORLD?”

After being single such a long time, 14 years, and only having a few short term relationships, it has often come up in conversation, mostly with married people, that my expectations are too high!

Hmmmmmm……

I don’t think they are, in fact I think my expectations have waned due to the fact I am reaching the top of the pyramid and there is not much up there, I feel I am at the top of the pear tree…all the younger fresh fruit is at the bottom and ripe for picking, snatched up very quickly, the mid range of the tree is nice, few blemishes but that’s ok, then the top of the tree……the fruit has been picked at by birds, chewed up and spat out, it has gone rotten, some have fallen on the ground , been trode on, and the few pieces of fruit left hanging on the top of the tree have so many things wrong with them that no one wants them…they are left in the sun, start shrivelling up , and harden so much that you need a nutcracker to get inside!2e8057fbdf76f437720e410c6ad97929

That is a true analogy of dating over 50. Hence why I am attracted to younger guys, the middle of the tree, they have had some rough times, but mostly seem to get over it ok, lower branches are still appealing just to remember what fresh fruit is like, very refreshing as they want no hassles, are fun, and nothing is an issue, so chilled and relaxed.

I am looking for a man I can connect with, and honestly his age is really not an issue for me, if I find a guy that is in his 60’s then that is fine, however if I find a guy in his late 30’s or early 40’s society says no no no! What is the chance of finding a man not only that I am physically attracted too but mentally stimulated by in their late 50’s to early 60’s…remember this is the top of the tree…not much up there and to find a connection well you  have to be damn lucky! And then if you do connect on those levels, does he take medication? Most men, in my experience, have either got depression, bipolar, bitterness inside because of their ex, children who don’t talk to them, very young children (under 10), or they have no energy , are very negative and dress like 80 year olds!!!!

For all you married people out there, not only do I hope you realise the “grass is NOT greener” but you have no fu..k .ng idea what it is like in the dating world! Yes we can have fun and go out with different men, and have the butterflies in our tummy that you haven’t felt in years, and I’m sure you realise from my blog so far so very funny and Baby-shaped-pears-Chinaweird experiences ,however this is all short lived, to be able to come home to a man who you know adores you deep down, cares about you, talks about your day, someone to go to dinner with, just sit quietly on the couch with, talk about the future with……..this is missing in my life and many single’s life, both male and female, and most of us long for this again.

However in saying all of this, we also wont settle, I would prefer to be single and happy (albeit at times lonely) than be in an unhappy relationship!

article-2451020-1882CEE2000005DC-330_634x675Maybe I do want it all, the cute guy that when I look at him I just want to jump his bones, Yes this will wane over time, but I want it in the beginning, I want him to think the same about me, I want to be able to talk to him for hours about my inner most secrets and thoughts (no not my sexual fantasies, head out the gutter! lol..or actually yeah that too! 😉 ), similar interests, a love for family, plans for the future, someone to travel with but mostly a man I can be myself with and laugh till my belly hurts!  Married friends…is this asking too much?? Do you really think that this is high expectations?

It probably is for the top of the tree…..however the middle and the lower article-0-094BCA38000005DC-473_468x598branches……..think I will head down there and try my luck !!!

🙂 🙂

Happy Dating! 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

“THE BUNNY BOILER & THE COP!”

A little bit of continuance on my last blog about scammers…..you also need to be wary of nutters! Many of them, on the Internet dating sites and in the street to be honest! I have been accused of being one, WTF, we all know THAT isn’t true!! hahaha , I have had my nutter moments and my friends know of Psycho Miss T when she is pushed but that is another blog! Anyway….

With my full time job, my mobile phone number is publicised on websites and ads, last year I had a guy msg me and ask me if I wanted to go on a date for dinner and the movies, he knew my first name and I assumed I had met him off a dating site and had forgotten about him! So many men I talk to,  so little time to remember them all! lol At the time I was in a relationship and told this guy thanks but no thanks! As it turned out unbeknownst to me I started talking to him on Plenty of Fish (POF) recently, he seemed nice, cute photos, then we exchanged phone numbers and as I entered his, the text appeared from 8 months ago about dinner and the movie! I certainly didn’t recognise his photos and asked him if we had spoke before? He couldn’t remember and then when I sent him the prior text he remembered that he had contacted me off my work website as he liked my photo!!! Stalker!!! He actually told me that “this is every stalkers dream” I stalked you on a website and now we are talking via an internet dating site!! I was sort of flattered but a bit apprehensive too, he started telling me that he has a pet bunny rabbit , this guy was 46 btw, he started emailing me photos of his bunny rabbit, his email name was Bunnylove, then he told me he slept with a stuffed bunny rabbit!!! how-to-draw-a-bunny-6-5Ok alarm bells were ringing, red flags flying, and this guy knows my mobile and where I work! Ok stay calm, be nice, he wanted to meet and I was curious but my common sense stepped in and said no you idiot do not meet  this bunny guy!! So I let him down nicely saying that I had caught up with my ex and we were going to try again! (good excuse to use because if they are a crazy then they know a man is going to be around!) Well for the next few days I kept receiving abusive, degrading texts! I didn’t respond as I didn’t want him turning up at my work, and in the end I blocked him! I never even met this guy, imagine how he would have reacted if I met him??

I was telling a friend of mine about this, he is a police officer, one of those special ones who gears up when the really bad stuff happens, and a guy I dated for a short time! (looks cute in uniform! lol) We are still friends, we talk and catch up from time to time, I don’t like to have bad blood with anyone I have dated, life is too short, and this guy, the cop makes me laugh so much! So when I was telling him about the bunny boiler, he told me that on Facebook, you can type a persons mobile number into the Search bar and their profile will come up! I didn’t know this, so you can now see if the guy you are talking to on the phone is really him! It does only work if their number is on their Facebook account, and in my friends words, men are dumb and will have their number on there! So girls, remove your number off your Facebook account!

When I met my friend the cop, we met on a dating site, we chatted for a while and decided to meet for a drink. We met out the front of  this cute bar, he was such a gentleman, ordered a cheese platter and a beautiful bottle of wine, we were having great conversation for around 2 hours, then he realised the time had gotten away, as he surprised me and had bought gold class tickets for a movie! What a guy!  I felt really comfortable with him so I got in his car with him to head to the theatre. Once in there we didn’t get to see much of the movie as he was just so kissable! haha…we decided to leave 30 mins into the movie and go parking! I felt like a teenager again! man-and-woman-having-romantic-time-in-carHe drove to a park where we stopped and jumped in the back seat, it was getting a little amorous, a few pieces of clothing had been removed, the windows had fogged up and then we saw head lights behind us. At first we thought it was someone else “parking”, until we got the tap on the window with a torch from a female police officer!!! OMFG!!!  I didn’t know if I should laugh or cry! My friend quickly put on his t-shirt and jumped out barefoot saying “It’s Ok, I’m a cop!” hahahaha What the?? He did some fast, smooth talking and we were fortunate that they hadn’t done their job properly and entered his rego into their system! He could have lost his job I found out later! I could hear the two police officers laughing, and at this stage I was feeling embarrassed and had sunk soooo low into the back seat! He got back in the car, we put on the demister so we could see and just started laughing! How old are we?????

It doesn’t matter! You are never too old to have fun and a great night of laughs! Just be safe! The two of us have a story and memories of such a fun crazy night, and we laugh about it over a bottle of red each time we catch up!

Live life, enjoy, dating can be laborious, embrace it,  along the way to finding “the one”  you can meet people that you will have a life time friendship with, secrets, and lots of laughs, I know I have!

Happy Dating 🙂

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“FUN TIME! NOT A LONG TIME!”

I remember I had my first date with a man around 6 months after my husband and I separated, It went well, spoke on the phone, had a coffee date and I must say I thought to myself “Well, the grass IS greener!”

The guy I met was the first guy I had spoken to on RSVP in fact I was scrolling through the site and his profile caught my eye, and he was the reason I signed up so I could send him a “Kiss”. The thing I loved back then was I felt like I was at an all you can eat smorgasbord!!! haha…All these single men, photos, descriptions, yes, yes, no, yes ….wow, couldn’t believe it could be this easy to meet someone, should have left my ex ages ago! (jokes on that)…..There was a lot of lessons I learnt from this one guy, and one of the things was that all men react differently!thC4NLP9KR

I was so naïve, having been with my husband from such a young age, I just expected all men to talk like him, have the same responses, like to do most of the blokey things that he liked to do…….WRONG! I was completely shocked when this guy was responding to things I said, differently to how I expected, how my ex would have reacted…this was one thing that I found hard to wrap my head around that all men are different. And they think us women are complicated! Pfftt…that has certainly changed in my eyes, at least (most) women are complicated in the SAME way! Men are complicated in all different ways- these are some of the confusing comments I have heard,  don’t want to be told what to do- like to be told what to do, if they are romantic, don’t hold my hand in public- No! hold my hand, I will always pay for dinner- You should pay for dinner, Cant wait to go on a holiday with you- I never said that, Lets be monogamous- I certainly didn’t say that, WTF and WE are complicated?? Sometimes I think my head is spinning that much I am going to become Regan in the Exorcist!!! ( I think some men I have dated think I am her anyway!!! hahaha)

I had my best girlfriend staying with me, and she coincidently split with her husband the same time as me, we decided to go out to a bar one night, we were having drinks when these two brothers came up to us, this was really my first encounter with someone trying to “pick me up” we were talking to them, as well as we could, they were Swedish tourists who couldn’t speak English!! It was a stinking hot evening, and we decided we were going back home for a swim in my pool, the tourist brothers decided to come back to, I was so nervous, why would anyone think I am attractive, I’m old I’m 37, no one would want an old hag like me….this is how I felt, and to get attention from these two young guys was so flattering, albeit we couldn’t understand them! haha, so they came back for a swim too and one thing led to another and my girlfriend disappeared with the older brother, he was 29! I was left with the cute 25 year old….my head was spinning, this is flattering, but he is so young, I tried to tell him my age and I have no idea if he understood, I wasn’t going to see him again, he was leaving Australia….so anyway it happened!! It was the worst sex I had ever had!!!

But to realise that I was attractive to a man who was so much younger just gave me the ego boost I needed and my girlfriend felt the same way! We were then unstoppable!!!! haha    Fun Time Not a Long Time!243891-funny-taylor-swift-dating-joke

Anyway, back to my first date, he was 32 and I was nearly 38, I thought at that stage that I wanted to get straight into a relationship, isn’t that what you are meant to do? I had been in and out of relationships since I was 16, I was ready to get back on that horse again! However, 6 years younger, he was a part time model, widower, gorgeous to look at, (with my experience on internet dating alarm bells would have been going off on these things- I will explain this in later blogs) however he was so nice, kind, and said everything I wanted to hear, and I thought to myself, fore sure I could be in a relationship with this guy, I could easily wake up next to him for the rest of my life!

He didn’t take me out for dinner, just always wanted to come to my house when my kids were at my ex’s, smooch on the couch, and of course gradually lead to what all men want…sex, the thing about this guy that surprised me was his smooth operation, he told me he was a widower, even showed me photos of his sick ex, and told me he was nervous to be with someone else as he hadn’t been with anyone else since her passing 12 months earlier. Of course I was the sympathetic ear, and felt so much for him, then I went to the bathroom, walked back to the lounge and he wasn’t there, here he was NAKED on my bed with his hand under his head lying on his side just waiting for me!!!! WTF, so much for being nervous!!!!

And seeing as I had already broken the ice with the young tourist I was up for the challenge!!! haha….at least he was a tad older!

So of course because we had sex, I thought he liked me and wanted a relationship, wrong, he called me a couple of times, was meant to come over for dinner, I offered to cook , didn’t show, and then I didn’t hear from him again….I was devastated and couldn’t believe that this nice man would do that! Not so nice!!!…Today I would recognise that he wanted just one thing, back then I thought it was a relationship, but like a lot of men,  he wanted a Fun Time, Not A  Long Time!untitled

I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, and my personal opinion is ,when you get out of a long term serious relationship, you need to get out, let your hair down, feel wanted & attractive, and have different experiences, safely. Its not for everyone, and you need to understand to NOT get attached, Fun Time NOT a Long Time!

 

Happy Dating! 🙂

“WHEN SHOULD YOU MEET?”

After Internet Dating for nearly 14 years, ( on and off by the way, I am not a complete serial dater, however my friends may think differently! 🙂 ) I have tried many different ways – chat online then meet in a couple of days, chat online then meet straight away, chat online, text and phone for weeks before meeting….so many different scenarios and which one is the best one?

Through Trial and many Errors this is the way I find best :

Chat online, text on mobile, talk on mobile, then meet – I prefer to do all of this, if possible within 2-3 days and no longer than a week, and I will tell you why shortly.

I have a close girlfriend who has been Internet Dating around 8 years, we talk every couple of days and always have “war stories” for each other. Early days of Internet dating she never wanted to take my advice, to meet within 3 days, she preferred to build rapport, gauge a sense of who they are before she felt comfortable to meet, this banter would go on for weeks as she would wait for him to ask her out, did she get asked out? Yes sometimes and sometimes not. Most of the time she was left feeling disillusioned and disappointed, let me tell you why……keyboard

When we speak to someone we haven’t met before we conjure up in our mind how we imagine them to be in person. The more you speak with them on message or text the more you will think they are amazing, then when you hear his or her voice you can sometimes be let down. I was messaging with a handsome 6’3″, 46 year old man who was fit, great physique, big arms & shoulders, just what I like, he sounded lovely by message and I thought all my Christmases had come at once…until I heard his voice on the phone…..he sounded like a girl! Very high pitched and it completely changed the way I saw him. Is this shallow? Maybe it is, but I imagined him to have the deepest, sexiest, mucho voice and I was disappointed, but disappointed in myself in not talking to him earlier. I did meet him for coffee and he was lovely and I didn’t even worry about the sound of his voice in person, he just wasn’t right for me.

So we chat online, text on mobile, then talk on mobile , all is sounding great so why not meet? You may want to keep talking to feel comfortable, like my girlfriend – (who by the way, through experience, now meets within 2-3 days!) there maybe extenuating circumstances as to why you cant meet such as work, kids, etc. But, if you cannot find the time to meet within a week, do you or they, really have time to date?

I like to get to the point quite quickly, life is too short to waste on the wrong guy,  after the initial banter – see my blog – “What to say to get the conversation started” – if they don’t suggest to text or phone I will, I will send a text and after texting will ask if they mind if I call. Some men do not wish to be too forward, but I want to be in control of the situation I don’t want it to drag out, so I will even suggest to meet for a coffee if they don’t suggest it first. date3

One experience I had in the early days, within the first 6 months, of Internet Dating I was chatting online and on the phone to a man who sounded amazing, we had similar values, we laughed, we talked on the phone for hours, we had so much in common but he lived an hour from me. He had his kids every 2nd weekend, and had to go away for work, so this meant we were talking on the phone for over 3 weeks before we met! Over the three weeks of talking, this guy was like a knight in shining armour to me, he was my prince, the man who was going to be the one I would live happily ever after with, I was so excited to meet him!

We arranged to meet at a café, he drove the hour to see me, and we both discussed that if things were going well the date would go into lunch. I was expecting this to happen and even roll into dinner too as he was going “to be the one”!!!!

I was sitting at an outdoor table at the café , and I saw a man walk around the corner around 20 metres away, and I was saying to myself …please let this NOT be him, PLEASE let this not be him, he was hunched over when he was walking, not this strong Knight I was imagining, he had made no effort in his appearance and wore a crinkled T-shirt, and shorts that looked like they were 2 sizes too small and to top this off he was wearing socks with sandals!!!!  (please remember, this guy was 35 at the time, not my dads age!!)….yes you can change a mans dress sense, but this wasn’t what I was imagining after 3 weeks of phone conversation!……….Hi…Its You!!! 😦 😦 😦

I knew as soon as I saw him that I was not physically attracted to him, yes more shallow Miss T, but the physical attraction has to be there too!! Suffice to say, we did have coffee that evolved to lunch as we had awesome conversation, but that was it, and I never heard from him again.

My lesson learnt – Why waste time on the wrong guy? Chat online, Text on mobile, Chat on Phone then Meet – If you connect then amazing, if not……..NEXT! 🙂 🙂

Happy chatting 🙂

 

I’M BACK IN THE SADDLE!

23749-Hand-HoldingAfter a 12 month relationship and an 18mth illness I thought it was time to get back on here and inform you gals (and guys) what has been happening, my apologies for being away so long!

As the title says, I am back in the saddle, back on the dating sites, back having coffee dates, lunch dates, flirting, getting butterflies again and then getting frustrated….how many emotions can you go through in one day?? Lol

I will step back to 2015 when I stopped writing…the reason…I met a lovely man on Tinder.

Yes it is possible to have a relationship off Tinder! Not all men on there are looking just for “fun” (short for sex!), some are looking for more (short for lets see how this progresses).

I met him by chance, a lazy Saturday night at home by myself, watching Netflix with a glass of wine and flicking through Tinder in boredom! Don’t get me wrong I love spending time at home on my own, but I also need some amusement and stimulation and I usually get one or the other from Tinder!

Amusement is sometimes seeing the crude photos that are put up, the couples on there looking for a woman to join them, men dressed as women, married men showing only their naked torso trying to entice us, and of course that same old photo.. men petting a tiger in Thailand!

The stimulation is sometimes having a mutual match with a man who actually converses with you and doesn’t drop off the face of the earth, (a term now called Ghosting, but that will be explained at a later date in detail, as you will come across it, if you haven’t already!)

So I had a mutual match with a man from interstate who was visiting my home town of Melbourne, we chatted and decided to meet for a coffee in the morning before he left for the airport. Unfortunately I misunderstood the time he was flying home, he told me 10 and I “assumed” it was 10 at night, but it was 10am and while I was having a lovely Sunday morning sleep- in he was messaging me asking if I was still coming!

So we continued to chat for another 3 weeks, which is very much against my own rule, of meeting quickly to either see if there is a physical connection or move on to the next! He was so besotted he decided to drive down and stay the weekend to meet me! (in a hotel, not with me!) I was very flattered and excited however the night before he was tolaughing-man-and-woman arrive I started to panic….he is driving all this way to meet me, what if I don’t like him, he is here for 3 days and expecting to do things together, what have I got myself into????

Another spanner in the works…..a guy I had been seeing on and off for 12 months, who I had thought was the love of my life, and he broke my heart, contacted me the night before my man was coming down to see me,  declaring his love for me, that he had made a mistake going back his ex and it was me that he wanted!! I hadn’t spoken to him for over 3 months!!! Talk about bad timing………..

I met my interstate man, and he was lovely, such a gentleman, chivalrous, attractive, generous, kind, yet the conversation from the night before with my ex, was in the back of my mind, and so I told this lovely man it wouldn’t work as we lived too far away from each other.

To cut a long story short, he pursued me and wore me down! (not really) and we started dating albeit long distance.

We travelled together, had a lot of fun and laughs, but after 12 months the cracks started to show and I just didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore…..my longest relationship in 14 years……I enjoyed being in a relationship, sharing my day, having someone to do things with, go out with, I had my alone time too which I cherish, but when it ended it lead me to ask myself………Can you get addicted to Internet dating????

Keep smiling 🙂