After being single such a long time, 14 years, and only having a few short term relationships, it has often come up in conversation, mostly with married people, that my expectations are too high!
Hmmmmmm……
I don’t think they are, in fact I think my expectations have waned due to the fact I am reaching the top of the pyramid and there is not much up there, I feel I am at the top of the pear tree…all the younger fresh fruit is at the bottom and ripe for picking, snatched up very quickly, the mid range of the tree is nice, few blemishes but that’s ok, then the top of the tree……the fruit has been picked at by birds, chewed up and spat out, it has gone rotten, some have fallen on the ground , been trode on, and the few pieces of fruit left hanging on the top of the tree have so many things wrong with them that no one wants them…they are left in the sun, start shrivelling up , and harden so much that you need a nutcracker to get inside!
That is a true analogy of dating over 50. Hence why I am attracted to younger guys, the middle of the tree, they have had some rough times, but mostly seem to get over it ok, lower branches are still appealing just to remember what fresh fruit is like, very refreshing as they want no hassles, are fun, and nothing is an issue, so chilled and relaxed.
I am looking for a man I can connect with, and honestly his age is really not an issue for me, if I find a guy that is in his 60’s then that is fine, however if I find a guy in his late 30’s or early 40’s society says no no no! What is the chance of finding a man not only that I am physically attracted too but mentally stimulated by in their late 50’s to early 60’s…remember this is the top of the tree…not much up there and to find a connection well you have to be damn lucky! And then if you do connect on those levels, does he take medication? Most men, in my experience, have either got depression, bipolar, bitterness inside because of their ex, children who don’t talk to them, very young children (under 10), or they have no energy , are very negative and dress like 80 year olds!!!!
For all you married people out there, not only do I hope you realise the “grass is NOT greener” but you have no fu..k .ng idea what it is like in the dating world! Yes we can have fun and go out with different men, and have the butterflies in our tummy that you haven’t felt in years, and I’m sure you realise from my blog so far so very funny and 
weird experiences ,however this is all short lived, to be able to come home to a man who you know adores you deep down, cares about you, talks about your day, someone to go to dinner with, just sit quietly on the couch with, talk about the future with……..this is missing in my life and many single’s life, both male and female, and most of us long for this again.
However in saying all of this, we also wont settle, I would prefer to be single and happy (albeit at times lonely) than be in an unhappy relationship!
Maybe I do want it all, the cute guy that when I look at him I just want to jump his bones, Yes this will wane over time, but I want it in the beginning, I want him to think the same about me, I want to be able to talk to him for hours about my inner most secrets and thoughts (no not my sexual fantasies, head out the gutter! lol..or actually yeah that too! 😉 ), similar interests, a love for family, plans for the future, someone to travel with but mostly a man I can be myself with and laugh till my belly hurts! Married friends…is this asking too much?? Do you really think that this is high expectations?
It probably is for the top of the tree…..however the middle and the lower 
branches……..think I will head down there and try my luck !!!
🙂 🙂
Happy Dating! 🙂
Dating after Divorce 